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Here's how to combine your money when you get married, according to a financial planner

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Set up "yours, mine, and ours" accounts if you want to streamline your finances but maintain some spending freedom.  Jacob Bøtter/Flickr

As a singleton, it's smart to have at least three bank accounts — one for checking, one for traditional savings, and one "dream savings" account — according to Sophia Bera, CFP and founder of Gen Y Planning.

That approach becomes a bit more complicated when you combine finances with a spouse or life partner.

While Bera acknowledges that every couple has different circumstances, she generally recommends her clients set up "yours, mine, and ours" accounts.

Many couples tend to prefer a joint account for taking care of household expenses, but it feels good to maintain some financial independence, she said.

"I do see a lot of benefits to each person having a little bit of money for themselves every month that they don't have to answer to," Bera told Business Insider during a Facebook LIVE interview. "Whether it's a certain amount per week that they each get or a certain amount per month," she said, that's up to you to determine the frequency and amount that makes the most sense for your situation.

Bera added that the money in your individual account should be used for yourself, or even to treat your partner with a gift or surprise.

"I think what gets hard is when we have individual accounts and no joint account — sometimes it doesn't feel like we're on the same page financially and working toward the same financial goals," Bera said.

To that end, it's especially important to have conversations with your partner before combining finances to discuss personal money philosophies and life goals so that you're able spend and save in a way that benefits both parties.

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Tanza Loudenback is a personal finance expert and a Certified Financial Planner (CFP). She was the founding reporter of Personal Finance Insider, covering topics including taxes, retirement planning, banking, real estate and mortgages, and budgeting. Her work has been featured in WSJ Buy Side, Fortune Recommends, Korn Ferry, TheStreet, Morgan Stanley Wealth Management, and Fidelity. ExperienceTanza was the first reporter on the Personal Finance Insider team. In addition to helping build the vertical from the ground up, she helmed a biweekly advice column answering readers’ personal finance questions and launched a personal finance newsletter. She also published two e-books under the Personal Finance Insider brand.She was the editorial lead on Master Your Money series, a two-year-long Business Insider series providing financial advice to millennials. She managed Master Your Money bootcamp events over the course of the series. While at BI, she also expanded tax coverage to include a guide to the best tax software and commissioned a panel of experts to review all articles. Tanza obtained her CFP license in 2020. She aims to simplify personal finance concepts for readers so that they can make smart decisions with their money. ExpertiseTanza’s areas of personal finance expertise include:
  • Real estate/mortgages
  • Taxes
  • Retirement planning
  • Small business finances
  • Banking
  • Budgeting
Education Tanza is a graduate of Elon University with a degree in print and online journalism, with a minor in Italian studies.