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Millennials say it's inappropriate to have a work wife but most Gen Zers and boomers are cool with it, poll finds

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Millennials aged 25-34 years old largely disapprove of work marriages, a poll found. Luis Alvarez/Getty Images
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Gen Zers and millennials are clashing on the topic of work spouses, a poll has found.

Work wives or husbands are coworkers who are especially close, often relying on each other for support and friendship in the workplace. The deep workplace relationships have long been compared with marital bonds, without the romantic element. 

However, a poll conducted in March for Newsweek by Redfield & Wilton Strategies found that more than half of millennials disapproved of such relationships. In a poll of 1,500 US adults, 57% of millennials, which the study categorized as 25-34-year-olds, said it wouldn't be acceptable to have a work spouse.

Only 18% of those polled in that age group said they thought work marriages were ok, 17% said it depended on the circumstances, and 8% said they didn't know, Newsweek reported.

The study found that most Gen Zers and boomers were fine with the relationships. Only 39% of Gen Zers and 40% of boomers said having a work partner was not ok.

Of the total adults polled, 21% said they thought it was ok to have a work spouse, while 45% said the relationship was inappropriate.

Although these relationships are typically platonic, one employee, who is referred to as Emily to preserve her anonymity, told Newsweek her work husband became her real husband. She said she believed work spouses could be non-romantic. However, the work relationships could also serve to fill "a void that exists in someone's romantic relationship," she said.

Jennifer B. Rhodes, a psychologist and dating coach, previously told Insider that workplace "marriages" were an unsurprising part of office life. They weren't typically an issue unless they were being used for something more intimate than would be appropriate in a work setting, she said.

Rhodes added: "There is a tendency for people to have an emotional affair with their work wife or work husband when things are not really going well at home."

Are you a Gen Zer, millennial, Gen X, or boomer who has a work spouse? Contact this reporter at bnolan@insider.com 

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Beatrice Nolan was a tech reporter on the business news team in the UK. She joined Insider in January 2022 as a fellow on Business Insider's careers desk. Beatrice covered tech and the future of work, with a focus on artificial intelligence. Some of her stories and early experiments with ChatGPT are widely cited. Beatrice has also discussed her work covering AI trends on panels and radio shows, including NPR.She was based in Business Insider's London office and graduated from the University of  York with a bachelor's degree in English.Featured Articles:Artists say AI image generators are copying their style to make thousands of new images — and it's completely out of their control.ChatGPT was a black swan eventFinland is the world's happiest country, but Finns say we're confusing happiness for something elseThe world is splitting between those who use ChatGPT to get better, smarter, richer — and everyone elseThis man used AI to write and illustrate a children's book in one weekend. He wasn't prepared for the backlash.ChatGPT has only been around for 2 months and is causing untold chaosTwo professors who say they caught students cheating on essays with ChatGPT explain why AI plagiarism can be hard to proveChatGPT wrote college application essays. Admissions professionals said they passed for essays written by students but wouldn't have a chance at any top colleges.College professors are considering creative ways to stop students from using AI to cheatChatGPT wrote my cover letters. Here's how recruiters responded.