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We allow our kids screen time at home, and they go to a tech-free school. It's a good balance.

Kids walking on a wall at a school.
Melissa Petro's kids attend a tech-free school Courtesy Melissa Petro
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As a parent of two kids, ages 4 and 6, it comes as no surprise to me that technology in the classroom is beginning to face a lot of heat. In less than five years, we watched the world go from "screens are bad, and shame on you for exposing your child to even a second of Daniel Tiger's Neighborhood!" to an era where, by necessity, everybody worked remotely, and children as young as three were attending preschool in front of a Chromebook for six hours at a time.

Don't get me wrong, I don't think technology is "bad" — my husband and I both work in digital media, and we've proudly exposed our kids to screens since birth (we even bought our 6-year-old, Oscar, his own iPhone for Christmas!) But at our son's tech-free school, there isn't so much as a smart board — and that's just the way we like it.

Their school emphasizes spending time outside and collaborating with classmates

Like all Waldorf Schools, my son's school, the Otto Specht School, emphasizes interaction with the natural world and with each other, and engaging in hands-on learning. Technology and screens aren't introduced until middle school, when students are taught lessons in cyber civics, as well as practical skills such as coding. Even at the high school level, the focus remains on working with natural materials and engaging in movement and art.

As a student in the early childhood program, Oscar spends a lot of his day outside, moving his body and exploring his environment. Learning comes from collaborating with classmates and solving the real-life problems that arise when putting on a puppet show, building a model out of beeswax, or baking bread and cutting vegetables to go into a soup served as that day's snack.

Melissa Petro's son climbing a tree.
Melissa Petro's son spends most of his day playing outside.  Courtesy Melissa Petro

Consider the creativity and critical thinking that comes with planting seeds, constructing forts, climbing trees, and caring for animals, and compare this to your typical digital curriculum, where content is delivered passively and learning requires little agency or initiative beyond hitting "play."

All this hands-on learning is particularly important for Oscar, a child with special needs. His main challenge is social anxiety, and he struggles to communicate when among peers or in unfamiliar settings. Some researchers caution that technology can perpetuate social anxiety, and say that more internet use is associated with a higher fear of face-to-face interactions. Social anxiety is best treated with exposure, and online communications lack nuanced social cues, meaning that kids like Oscar need face-to-face interactions— not occupational therapy delivered over Zoom.

We let our kids use screens at home, but they don't overindulge

Like most Waldorf schools, Otto Specht suggests limited media exposure at home. But in our house, our kids have free rein when it comes to screen time. Oscar can watch hours of Disney Plus, zone out to Instagram reels on the iPad, or play Minecraft to his heart's content.

Melissa Petro's son snuggling with a cat and looking at an iPad screen on a bed.
Melissa Petro's son is allowed screen time at home.  Courtesy Melissa Petro

To me, the fact that he doesn't overindulge is an indication of a tech-free school's success. He's just as interested in digging a pond in the garden or putting together a puzzle as he is in movie night.

Some people argue that it's necessary to introduce kids to technology because it makes them "workplace-ready." But let's face it, the technology we insist our kids master and defend as integral to learning won't even exist by the time today's students enter the workforce.

In the meantime, let's let kids be kids.

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In 2010, Melissa Petro found herself at the center of a media firestorm after being outed by the New York Post as a former prostitute-turned public school teacher. The story of how she subsequently lost her elementary school teaching career appeared everywhere from the New York Times to the Times of India, The Daily Mail (UK) to El Mundo. Hundreds of people publicly offered support including acclaimed author and TV host Janet Mock, outspoken comedian Chelsea Handler, and high profile women's rights attorney, Gloria Allred, who offered counsel pro-bono and stood by her side. These days, she's your typical housewife and stay-at-home mom, in addition to working as a freelance writer and writing instructor — all topics she frequently explores for Business Insider. Her essays on sex, love, work, and motherhood have appeared in Marie Claire, Real Simple, and Pacific Standard Magazine, and on NY Magazine, Esquire, Allure, Instyle, Cosmopolitan, Redbook, Good Housekeeping, Guardian, Washington Post, and many other places. In 2015, she was chosen as one of three Finalist for the PEN America/Fusion Young Emerging Writer's Prize judged by John Freeman, Roxane Gay, and Cristina Henríque. This is an annual award that recognizes a promising young writer of an unpublished work of nonfiction that addresses a global and/or multicultural issues. She holds an MFA in creative nonfiction from the New School, a masters in childhood education from Fordham University, and a BA from Antioch College in sociology and women's studies. Follow her on Twitter and Instagram.